• Babe and Honey

    Different Values

    Inspired by J and M 2015.  A common scene – On the surface it appears harmless and comical but highlights a very important lesson.  Your values will never match another’s.  Definitely not in intensity and perhaps not even categorically.  Be mindful of this in your relationships and utilize communication, compromise and patience to minimize the pain associated with avoidable misunderstandings.

  • Thought Tank

    Strong Generosity

    Not all actions that look the same are the same.  

    Generosity from a place of strength and kindness promotes inspiration and further generosity.

    Generosity from a place of weakness, fear, or winning favor enables corruption and theft.

    Be generous from your strongest possible position.

  • Bible of BS

    Bible of BS Case Study

    We’ve all said it, we’ve all heard it.  At it’s worst it is done with malice, and even at it’s best, laziness.  There is always something better to say.  If you think someone is misguided, suggest what their priority should be.  If you’ve had enough of the conversation, find another way to excuse yourself.  If you want to make someone feel bad and stupid, don’t.

    Be kinder.  Be more patient.  Be more effective.  Just two little words can violate all the commandments below.

    False Authority – You are not the one to determine what is important to other people

    Improper Assumption – Clearly somebody cares enough to talk about it.  Just because you don’t care do not assume no one else does

    Indecent Regard for Others – It is belittling

    Deflection – Often used as a gaslighting technique, especially when the other person is making ground on their point

    Inconsistent – You cared enough to engage in the topic or cared enough to interject your BS

    Unresourceful – As stated above, there is almost certainly a better way

  • Chef's Hat

    Exotic Ingredient – Huitlacoche

    Exotic Ingredient Highlight – Huitlacoche.

    Also called corn smut, many describe this is as the truffle of Mexico.

    Like all mushrooms, it is considered a fungus, with this one growing on ears of corn.

    Presented here is the more accessible canned version. More difficult to find varieties exist in fresh and froze forms.

    The canned version is considered vastly inferior, having a slimier (or creamier if you want to be euphemistic) than the spongier and firmer textures of the fresh and frozen.

    It has a very bold earthy flavor and is highly recommended to be mixed with other ingredients. This dish here is sauteed with onion, garlic, and crema. It was used as filling for tamales, and quesadillas.

  • Thought Tank

    The Ever Changing Journey

    There is no magic hack in life. Everyone is in a different place even yourself at any given moment. What works for you may not work for others. What works in the past may not work in the present. Have compassion for others’ journey and be adaptable for the changes that will happen on yours.

  • Babe and Honey

    Keep it Silly

    Babe and honey. Inspired by real stories and real people. Finding the humor in imperfect situations with even more imperfect characters.

    Inspired by T and M 2006. When you can keep it more silly than serious, you’re probably doing something right.

  • Angels

    The Battleground

    It’s easy to bask in the blessings of your life and not worry about the limiting parts. It’s similarly as simple to accept the dark areas and make no effort to address it. The difference for positive change happens in the battleground. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. It is there, where the limitations of your full potential exist for both you and others.

  • Bible of BS

    Bible of BS Case Study

    “It’s not what you say it’s how you say it”.  As cliche as this phrase is, it’s certainty cannot be overstated.  Too often it is believed that as long what you say is correct then it cannot be BS.  However, if whatever you communicate is done aggressively, chances are the tone of your voice is more destructive to the well being of the world than their “misbelief.”  It doesn’t matter how much more “truthful” your view is than the opposition, yelling or exploding is a violation of several BS Commandments shown below.

    It is an attack which is always BS – (Commandment X – Indecent Regard to Others)

    Often times the relevance of whatever you’re cursing about is an exaggeration, and does not warrant shouting – (Commandment V – Misrepresentation)

    It is rarely the best solution, definitely not long term, and hardly even short.   Not only is it ineffective, often times it is counter-productive and worsens the situation – (Commandment 4 – Unresourceful)

    The fact you believe it is effective, makes you ignorant – (Commandment 2 – Ignorant)

    Yelling and lashing out are common tools to perpetuate toxic environments and cave into personal demons.  If that is what your goal is, you’re definitely in the wrong place.

  • Chef's Hat

    Top Chef Series 4

    Challenge 8: Create a dish using Native American ingredients

    Huitlacoche Tamales

    Challenge 9: Create a Fish Boil

    Fusion Vietnamese and Szechuan Sour Fish Soup on white rice – Swai fillets in a tamarind and pickled mustard broth.

  • Thought Tank

    Workplace Naughty and Nice List

    A naughty and nice list I created for my clinic recently. Although this was curtailed specifically for a workplace environment, many of these translate to all aspects of life.

    TLDR: Appreciate others and what you have. Be honest and kind. Speak well about others and yourself. This is how you build a world of happiness. Do the opposite, and that’s how you build of a world of toxicity.

  • Babe and Honey

    The Invincible Man

    Babe and honey. Inspired by real stories and real people. Finding the humor in imperfect situations and even more imperfect characters.

    Inspired by all the “invincible” primates in the world, and the trouble their immortality creates for others.

  • Angels

    The Strong Carry the Most

    Being strong comes with a responsibility to carry a heavier load for the common good.

    Having strength just for just for one’s ego or other selfish reasons is simply a waste.

    Be strong for others.